Happiness happens to those who seek it!!

Believe it or not i ws actually thinking abt this before reading a article abt the same by Shobhaa De in a magazine...
The universe’s most elusive and most desired emotional state..Happiness!! But there is a catch in being happy..which is.."Inorder to achieve happiness ,a person first has to want to be happy!" Sounds simple and stupid huh...bt lemme tell u..this is what most of us lack!...Just think when ws the last time u actually thought ‘Yes,i want to be happy.’ Sounds foolish??Wel think abt it....However its true...Happiness happens to those who seek it!
I was thinking abt al those years before...wen i was small...and now...sadly its more frowns and less smiles now(though i am improving..;-)).Wel you can always say that its ws different wen we wer small..less responsibilities,less work n tons of innocense..ah..it really didnt take much to be happy then...come on...an ice cream was enough to bring on a smile!!bt nw its different,isnt it??Or is it??... Hmm...Not denying the fact that there are ups and downs in life...bt doesnt mean u have to be soar abt it al the time.Trust me,those small and tiny weeny things in life that brings on a smile on your face still counts.:-) What our problem is we focus more on things that doesnt make us happy rather than on those that do.We continue to bang on closed doors and so fail to see the opened ones..
Wel the article had some 20-25 tips to be happy..hehe dont worry i am not gonna scribble al that here.It consists mostly of things that we already know...bt something that caught me ws..to be happy you have to be selfish!!Lemme tell you.. being ‘constructively selfish’ is different from being mean and self-centered. We all like to see our selves as generous people but the truth is we only help people who can help us.Anyways if you dont give yourself priority,you can never give others...in short you can never make the people around you happy without being happy urself!

Who You Are Makes A Difference!

Who You Are Makes A Difference...

A teacher in New York decided to honor each of her seniors in high school by telling them the difference they each made. Using a process developed by Helice Bridges of Del Mar, California, she called each student to the front of the class, one at a time. First she told them how the student made a difference to her and the class. Then she presented each of them with a blue ribbon imprinted with gold letters which read,
"Who I Am Makes a Difference."
Afterwards the teacher decided to do a class project to see what kind of impact recognition would have on a community. She gave each of the students three more ribbons and instructed them to go out and spread this acknowledgment ceremony. Then they were to follow up on the results, see who honored whom and report back to the class in about a week. One of the boys in the class went to a junior executive in a nearby company and honored him for helping him with his career planning. He gave him a blue ribbon and put it on his shirt. Then he gave him two extra ribbons, and said, "We're doing a class project on recognition, and we'd like you to go out, find somebody to honor, give them a blue ribbon, then give them the extra blue ribbon so they can acknowledge a third person to keep this acknowledgment ceremony going. Then please report back to me and tell me what happened."
Later that day the junior executive went in to see his boss, who had been noted, by the way, as being kind of a grouchy fellow. He sat his boss down and he told him that he deeply admired him for being a creative genius. The boss seemed very surprised. The junior executive asked him if he would accept the gift of the blue ribbon and would he give him permission to put it on him. His surprised boss said, "Well, sure."The junior executive took the blue ribbon and placed it right on his boss's jacket above his heart. As he gave him the last extra ribbon, he said, "Would you do me a favor? Would you take this extra ribbon and pass it on by honoring somebody else? The young boy who first gave me the ribbons is doing a project in school and we want to keep this recognition ceremony going and find out how it affects people."
That night the boss came home to his 14-year-old son and sat him down.He said, "The most incredible thing happened to me today.I was in my office and one of the junior executives came in and told me he admired me and gave me a blue ribbon for being a creative genius. Imagine. He thinks I'm a creative genius. Then he put this blue ribbon that says 'Who I Am Makes A Difference' on my jacket above my heart.He gave me an extra ribbon and asked me to find somebody else to honor. As I was driving home tonight, I started thinking about whom I would honor with this ribbon and I thought about you. I want to honor you.
"My days are really hectic and when I come home I don't pay a lot of attention to you. Sometimes I scream at you for not getting good enough grades in school and for your bedroom being a mess, but somehow tonight, I just wanted to sit here and, well, just let you know that you do make a difference to me. Besides your mother, you are the most important person in my life. You're a great kid and I love you!"
The startled boy started to sob and sob, and he couldn't stop crying.His whole body shook. He looked up at his father and said through his tears, "I was planning on committing suicide tomorrow, Dad, because I didn't think you loved me. Now I don't need to."

Source:Chicken soup for the soul

Its different!!

I ws orkutin wen the phone rang.Mom picked it up n shouted for me.I ws surprised n happy to hear my old buddy's voice...bt at the same time felt tat somethin ws wrong frm her voice..i could still make tat out..Neways we talked for long n before i kept da phone i made sure she ws ok..bt wen i finally kept da phone and turned,i found my mom starrin at me n askin "Wats so much to talk??"..I snaped back "Dont give me tat...dont u talk like tat wit grandmom??"(I scored...hehe!!)
"Yeah...bt tats my mom!"
"Yeah...n this is my best friend!"
"So wat...its nt da same..its different!!"
I smiled n didnt say anythin...Its different huh!

Family is something that your born into..they watch you as you take your first step,as you say your first word,as you evolve into an adult,as u change....they are there with you in almost every stage of your life.You think no one can understand you better.Then as you get out of this protective shell,you realise things are not as easy n comfortable as you thought they were.And once your out of this shell there is no escape...you are thrown into situations n scenarios which you never even dreamt you have to face...wel forget facing it your never even knew some of them existed..and for the first time your fighting it out all alone...its then that you discover that special n rare species that you never ever encountered before...friends!!
Strangers at first..but you never even guessed that the first smile or the first handshake will take you a long way.First you try it out the formal way with the "hello's" "thank you's" "sorry's"...but then when you see how the frequency matches you starts opening up more...leading to long chats,day outs,shopping,movies,silly fights..As time passes you discover and understand each other more and get really close.You start to consider them as your family because they tend to become so..hmm maybe its different..different for the fact that they are not related by blood..but do we really care...no!!..And now when you are out fighting it al alone..when you are really exhausted and wish that life could be more easy..then you look beside you and find your friend smiling at you...giving you those much needed stress busters and then..your tempted to smile back!! Yeah rit..its different!!

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